It has struck me time and again that rarely do we really connect the two words “my” plus “life,” even though we over use them every day. ‘My life’ is about me, yours, all about you. It sounds so obvious, I fear we miss the point.
Let me digress superficially, which as deep as I can go, into physics and the laws of the universe for a moment. It’s relevant (no joke, you Einstein fans). Everything in the universe in its most basic form is electromagnetic energy or its subcomponents, charged entities like electrons, protons, quarks and so forth. According to the law of attraction, those electrical impulses either create affinities that draw to it similar forms, or the opposite occurs, repulsion, things pushed away.
Apply that lofty cosmic principle to life, ‘our lives.’ The things that I say, do, even think (firing synapses are electrical impulses) creates energy that either attracts people and things to me or repels them. That energy field that I am always creating by my thoughts, words, and actions dissipates out into the universe, attracting like energies and repelling unlike energies.
During good times, that easy enough to buy. But most lives involve tragic twists and turns and inexplicable challenges we most times think we don’t deserve. Why me? we wonder.
But if we truly buy that it’s our own energy that is attracting whatever comes into our lives, or is keeping good things at bay, then we have to take responsibility for all of it—the good, the bad, and the ugly. What about me attracted this person/place/event? should be the question. How can I change my patterns and ways and thereby change what I am attracting? What is the lesson?
“Why me?” can be a useful question if it avoids the debilitating pitfalls of victimhood and leads us to insights into our negative patterns and habits, into admitting our missteps, and into committing to change. Then de facto, by changing our energy, we begin to change ‘our lives.’ It’s worth a try, no?